tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-511571013543611032.post2654353524216675614..comments2023-09-25T07:59:42.094-05:00Comments on NOT So Straight From The Hip: Advice WantedRookieRuggerLSUhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15899402394477526677noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-511571013543611032.post-36504789552750486022009-03-23T15:23:00.000-05:002009-03-23T15:23:00.000-05:00amazingly, kids are learning about sex at ages muc...amazingly, kids are learning about sex at ages much earlier than that. When I was that age, the teachers were showing us the puberty videos.<BR/><BR/>My son had a similar issue but at a later age. With the help of a friend, we found a therapist who was willing to work with him for no charge. That could be an option to look into since she's so bothered by the teasing.<BR/><BR/>I'd suggest the mom talk to the daughter, and talk to the teachers and principle about the teasing. She will also want to look into parental controls to block the inappropriate searches.<BR/><BR/>The important thing is to communicate, make sure the mom knows what the daughter is up to and what's bothering her. Don't take "nothing" or "it's OK" as an answer, because it's not.Donna M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13519234853139712136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-511571013543611032.post-70596780720686863772009-03-19T00:17:00.000-05:002009-03-19T00:17:00.000-05:00Yeah I agree with Breenlantern -- you have to deal...Yeah I agree with Breenlantern -- you have to deal with sex when the kid encounters or is ready to deal with it.. I think the tricky part is to only deal with the issues the kid is ready to handle or deal with and not overwhelm them ...<BR/>I think maybe talking with her as much as she can -- finding out what her interest is in each of the areas she mentions (boobs, kissing etc)... I wouldnt encourage a 9 year old to be involved in sexual activity ... i think you need to give her information that she can use to empower herself to make the right decisions though. She is developing so she has to know what this means and what it doesnt mean. It may not mean shes ready for sex or dealing with boys. What sorts of changes in her mood are happening? Maybe she feels she is supposed to be ready for boys and or sex. Or that the attention that she is getting from the boys makes her more popular with them. Or that it means they really care for her and she should accept their attentions. At her age its hard to be "different". There is nothing she can do if she develops early but she definitely needs information so that she understands more about these changes. Good luck to your friend and her daughter!Free_Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01641786467706152234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-511571013543611032.post-11289493382774595302009-03-18T06:02:00.000-05:002009-03-18T06:02:00.000-05:00"All of us having been kids ourselves, we know it ..."All of us having been kids ourselves, we know it is natural for kids to be curious about sex but not at this age." This is wrong: we deal with sex when we deal with it. I was sexually active at this age (to a small, experimental degree.) This is when it is coming up in her life and her mother needs to sit down and talk with her and answer her questions and be available to her. School was rough on me and every day was like going to prison, but I know it would have helped if i could have talked to someone about who would understand and not judge me. I hope it gets better for her...I hope her Mom can talk with here and be understanding to what she is going through. If the teasing rises to the level of harassment and prevents the girl from being able to attend and participate in school safely, the school needs to get involved in protecting here and addressing it with the people who are harrassing here.Breenlanternhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317914861018120156noreply@blogger.com